I bring my dog Zelda with me to work front desk on the weekends at the local hotel. Zelda is friendly, loves the attention and takes her job seriously. However, I’ve observed something time and time again that honestly makes my skin crawl. Grown adults who have no clue how to greet a strange dog. They greet her as if they would greet their own dog. There is a big difference between the comfort level of a dog you know and live with and a strange dog you just met for the first time.

Dogs talk through body language and display many different “stress signals” to try to tell others that they are uncomfortable with what they’re doing. Most humans don’t understand these stress signals and so do not recognize them. They keep pushing the dogs boundaries without even knowing it.

We love dogs and we want to get close to them, rough up their fur and really show them how we care. But to a dog that doesn’t know you, this type of behavior can be scary and overwhelming. Imagine if a stranger you just met greeted you by getting right in your body space, hugging you or slapping you on the back. You’d probably feel really uncomfortable.

Want to learn more about dog’s stress signals? Read my Body Language and Respect post from my Dogs and Children series.